Sex is everywhere -- on beer commercials, billboards, and in music lyrics. But most messages we get tell us that sex is something dirty that we shouldn't talk about or an act of violence. Most of us learn that our bodies, and our sex, are things to be ashamed of. Most of us learn that sex means a man on top of a woman, and that the only other choice is abstinence. But sex can be lots of things ...
Women have sex with women, men have sex with men, women have sex with men -- and sometimes the best sex is with yourself!
There are lots of safe and fun ways to get off, which you probably won't learn in school. You can do many of these things all by yourself as well as with others, and you can talk about them even if you don't want to do them. Don't feel like you have to do everything on this page, but don't feel like anything is automatically off limits either. The important thing is that everyone involved clearly says what they want and can make it stop when they want.
Just remember, sex is only fun if everyone agrees on what they're going to do.
you could ...
- suck, kiss, touch, bite, fondle, nibble, squeeze, and lick someone's body, nipples, calves, toes, neck, ass, dick or vulva ...
- jerk yourself or each other off, dry or using lots of lubricant ...
- kiss for a long time, using lots of tongue ...
- have sex in front of mirrors, or watch each other jerking off ...
- get into role play (for instance, tie someone up and pleasure them) ...
- look at sexy pictures and videos ...
- make up or act out fantasies, talk dirty, dress up, strip down, or cross-dress (dressing in the clothes of the other gender) ...
- call your friend and tell him or her your hottest fantasies ...
- use cock rings, nipple clamps (or clothespins), or vibrators on your own or someone else's body ...
- shower together, or grind against each other with your clothes on (dry humping) ...
- cum on someone's belly, back, feet, chest -- instead of in them ...
- play with your own or someone else's ass or vagina, put your fingers, dildoes, vegetables, or buttplugs into them.
If you're putting something into a butthole, make sure it has a flared base and looks something like the picture. That way it can't go all the way in and get stuck.
It's important to play safe. Use condoms and plastic wrap. Don't get blood or cum in a wound. See Safe Sex for more information.
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women have sex with women, men have sex with men, women have sex with men -- and sometimes the best sex is with yourself!
sex is only fun if everyone agrees on what they're going to do